Can’t stop worrying about your upcoming labour?
Pregnancy can be an exciting time for many women. So why is it that so many expecting mothers are afraid of giving birth? Is it the fear of the unknown? Or perhaps it’s because the media has portrayed childbirth to be a scream fest. Maybe your friend or family member has shared a not-so-pleasant birth experience with you. Whatever the reason, fear of childbirth is real and many women experience some degree of it. My hope is to share some tips on how to put your fear of childbirth to rest.
1. Be selective about the birth stories you hear
Although every birth story is significant, not all stories are beneficial to a pregnant women. Politely ask people to only share positive birth experiences with you. If someone tries to share a negative story with you, simply say:
“Positive birth stories only please…My baby is listening”.
2. Get informed
There are tons of resources out there on what to expect. Childbirth Without Fear by Dr.Dick-Read does an excellent job of explaining the root cause of Western women’s fear and anxiety about pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding. It will help you discover where your fears come from and normalize natural birth in a compassionate and empathetic way. Other great reads include Gentle Birth by Barbara Harper, and Ina May Gaskin’s Guide to Childbirth.
If you continue to feel stressed about your upcoming birth, don’t hesitate to discuss your concerns with your Obstetrician, Midwife, or Doula during your prenatal visits. Learn about different birth options and methods of pain control ahead of time.
Click here to read more about Dr. Dick-Read and the fear of childbirth.
3. Stay active throughout your pregnancy
Exercise increases endorphins and serotonin, which helps to reduce anxiety and pain during pregnancy and birth. The American Pregnancy Association states that the fitness level of a mother can result in a shorter labour, fewer medical interventions, and less exhaustion during labour. Whether you’re doing yoga, cardio workouts, weight training, or simply going for long walks. Exercise that fear away! (Consult a physician before participating in any form of exercise).
4. Take time to relax
Meditation helps to calm the mind. If you meditate during pregnancy, you can learn to replace anxious thoughts with positive reinforcements. Click here for a list of meditation exercises.
5. Surround yourself with a positive support network
A loving partner can provide a sense of security during labour. They can shower you with love and affection that can help increase your oxytocin, which will result in a less painful birth experience.
Hire a Doula.
A doula is a compassionate and professional support person who will come alongside you and your partner to provide you with emotional, physical, and informational support during your pregnancy and birth. She can help to reduce the anxiety that can sometimes be associated with childbirth.
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